One Nation, Indivisible

by John Zajaros on October 21, 2020

I love our country…OUR COUNTRY!

This isn’t a Red country or a Blue country. If it is, we are no longer a Red, White, and Blue country.

We must heal the divide and eliminate the hateful & hate-filled rhetoric. We cannot be the abomination that Trump has engendered, yet Trump is a symptom—the cure begins with a leader who sees the UNITED in the United States and the AMERICAN people in the United States of America.

We must have a POTUS who sees one people and one nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.

“The Pledge of Allegiance” was written in August 1892 by the SOCIALIST minister Francis Bellamy (1855-1931).

In its original form it read:

“I pledge allegiance to my Flag and the Republic for which it stands, one nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.”

In 1923:

The words, “the Flag of the United States of America” were added.

In 1954

In response to the Cold War, Eisenhower asked Congress to add the words “under God!”

Know your history. Perhaps then we can come to an understanding of how we got to where we are today and how to work our way back to something we can cherish.

I love our country…Our Country!

“America, love it or leave it” is a sad, sorry, myopic saying from the 1960s. We can do better. We must do better!

“I should like to be able to love my country and still love justice. I don’t want just any greatness for it, particularly a greatness born of blood and falsehood. I want to keep it alive by keeping justice alive.” Albert Camus — Letter to a German Friend

Sam Elliot’s magnificent voice speaks to the Soul of America!

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Joe Biden or Donald Trump

by John Zajaros on October 14, 2020

I spent 10 years fighting for my life. In 2008, I was well enough to start rebuilding my life and the lives of my wife and children. The last twelve years have been incredibly satisfying.

Enter Donald Trump and the Novel Coronavirus: COVID-19

Sadly, everything I’ve built is imploding. It’s imploding because of the failure of President Donald Trump & the Trump Cult. I refer to the GOP as the Trump Cult because the Republican Party isn’t the GOP or the Party of Lincoln and Reagan anymore.

My life is imploding because our government is devoid of any kind of leadership and because Trump, McConnell, McCarthy, and the rest of the Trump sycophants in the GOP have failed to address the threat posed to our lives and to our economy by COVID-19.

All of the work I’ve done over the last 12 years is disintegrating before my eyes. That said, I know I am not alone. No one knows what to do or what tomorrow will bring, and it is all because of the insanity that is on constant display from the current occupant of 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. No one has any faith in our current president–and rightly so. There is nothing we can point to that looks like a well-thought-out national strategy for COVID-19.

  • Denial isn’t a strategy.
  • Lying about the state we are in isn’t a strategy.
  • Herd immunity is most certainly not a strategy.

In fact, herd immunity is criminal—it is criminally negligent.

Herd immunity, which is Trump’s new “strategy” for dealing with COVID-19, will kill millions if it is allowed to run its course. Herd immunity has been debunked by Dr. Anthony Fauci, Director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases (NIAID), Dr. Robert Redfield, Director of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and Administrator of the Agency for Toxic Substances and Disease Registry, Dr. Tedros Adhonam Ghebreyesus, Director-General of the World Health Organization (WHO), and literally hundreds top epidemiologists and infectious disease experts from around the world.

Regarding herd immunity, Joanna Wares, Associate Professor of Mathematics, University of Richmond and Sara Krehbiel, Assistant Professor of Mathematics and Computer Science, Santa Clara University noted that “If the virus is unchecked, the final percentage of people infected will far overshoot the herd immunity threshold, affecting as many as 90% of the population in the case of SARS-CoV-2.” (Herd immunity won’t solve America’s COVID-19 problem, June 16, 2020, Updated September 2, 2020).

That’s 90% of a population of 330,447,504 in the USA or 297,402,754 infected with a current mortality rate of 2.7% (based on the current 8,147,092 infected and 221,807 American deaths as of 10-14-2020 at 7:32 PM Eastern), which will mean a staggering 8,096,878 deaths due to herd immunity. In fact, there will undoubtedly be many more deaths because the current healthcare system will breakdown, being unable to care for so many seriously ill patients, and herd immunity does not stop the virus, so there is that too.

Mary L. Trump, Ph.D., Trump’s niece, referred to Donald J. Trump, Sr. as “the world’s most dangerous man” in her book entitled Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World’s Most Dangerous Man. I highly recommend it. The book explains a lot. I sincerely believe Donald J. Trump, Sr. poses a clear and present danger to the USA and to the American people, and Heaven help us if he wins another term. We will witness hell on Earth—and that’s not hyperbole.

I am not sure if I have the time to rebuild my life again, but I won’t quit. I will try: because that’s the American way, and because I love what I do, the students I work with, and my wife, children, and grandchildren.

Donald J. Trump, Sr. is a nightmare.

The only control I have over the nightmare and his abhorrent behavior is to vote…and to encourage you to vote.

  • Please vote.
  • Vote for Joe Biden.
  • Don’t vote for me. I hope you know what I mean.

I’m not so narcissistic as to believe that anyone out there will vote for Biden for my sake or because I say it is the right thing to do, but think about your children and your grandchildren, and think about your future and theirs. Can you really take four more years of Trump? Can your children and grandchildren survive in the world he will leave behind? Think about the world we’ve had to endure over the last 10 months. Now imagine it going on for another 4-5 years!

Vote for Joe Biden and Kamala Harris. Our children and grandchildren deserve better than Donald J. Trump, Sr.

NOTE: Do not believe what the Trump Administration is telling you about children and COVID-19.

What are the implications for public health practice? Children are at risk for severe COVID-19. Public health authorities and clinicians should continue to track pediatric SARS-CoV-2 infections. Reinforcement of prevention efforts is essential in congregate settings that serve children, including childcare centers and schools. Hospitalization Rates and Characteristics of Children Aged <18 Years Hospitalized with Laboratory-Confirmed COVID-19 — COVID-NET, 14 States, March 1–July 25, 2020

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The video below was created by one of my son’s friends a few months after his death: His Suicide.

John Patrick Jude Zajaros, Jr., Jack to his friends, Jackie to those who loved him the most, took his own life in the early morning hours of July 1, 2012. He planned his death out carefully and executed himself without witness and without leaving a note behind.

I cannot imagine the desperation and the pain he must have felt, a pain so black that caused him to act in such a way. I can, however, get pretty close; it must have been a terrible, black, lonely place.

The irony is palpable, on so many levels.

And yet he was loved so very much. Did he know? Did it matter? It’s impossible to know.

While the video below is not a slick production, it does seem to capture the pain he must have felt toward the end of his life.

Suicide is at epidemic levels; it is a familial tragedy and a national catastrophe. Until we bring suicide out of the closet and work to understand it, we will continue to lose our friends and loved ones. We are losing the young, the elderly, and those in-between to suicide. Suicide does not discriminate. Suicide is an equal opportunity destroyer. Suicide accepts all who apply, doling out terrible consequences.

We must come to understand suicide by asking the tough questions, by seeking even tougher answers, and then, by applying the lessons learned. If we don’t work to understand suicide, I fear the latest trend will only continue to grow. I know it will grow!

I miss my son each and every day. The pain is like no other. There is no closure. Closure is a myth. Closure does not exist. There is only grief, somewhat abated by time, life, more painful than before but still worth living, and family, the loved ones left behind, family and friends trying in vain to make sense of it all.

There is no sense to be gained, yet still we try.

What else can we do?

If you are contemplating suicide. If you are considering an end to your life. Call me. Call anybody. PLEASE, CALL SOMEONE NOW!

If you are seriously considering an end to your life? Call the NSPH number listed below.

I wish you every good thing in life. But, most of all, I wish you peace!

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1 (800) 273-8255
Hours: 24 hours, 7 days a week
Languages: English, Spanish
Website: www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

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Happy Father’s Day, Dads!

Happy Father's Day, Dad! From Westside Tutoring & Testing Services - In Any Language!

A Privilege and a Pleasure!

I have had the privilege of meeting hundreds of amazing dads over the years. I have had the privilege of working with their sons and daughters and have come to know many of them personally. The fathers I have come to know come in every imaginable size and shape, from every conceivable race, religion, and culture, and range in educational background from barely finishing middle school (then, junior high school) to PhD, MD, CPA, JD, and the like.

The common denominator they share has been evident to a man:

They love their children and want for them at least as full a life as they’ve had…and, hopefully, a fuller, richer life.

It is easy to be a father. It is harder to be a Dad. Maybe harder isn’t the right word, but it certainly takes more effort to be good father…a Dad.

Almost any male of our species can father a child. Many should not! It takes much more effort to be a loving, caring, devoted parent…but the payoff is immense.

There is a poem many people are familiar with. The vast majority attribute it to the Bible. However, regardless of provenance, it is particularly accurate in describing the (possible) rewards associated with fatherhood.

Or rather, the rewards that come with being a Dad!

I want to share this poem with you. I also want to thank the Dads out there…particularly the Dads who have allowed me the privilege of working with their children.

I am forever grateful!

And to my children, well, you know how I feel about you. You have given me love beyond measure and a fuller life than I could have possibly hoped for.

I love you GREAT BIG LOTS!

And, finally, to Jack, Jr:

You are in my heart every day. Jack, there isn’t a day that goes by without you. I will miss you until the day I die, son.

To Dads Everywhere – The Rewards of Fatherhood

TEN FOLD

Whatever you give away today
or think or say or do
will multiply about ten fold
and then return to you

It may not come immediately
nor from the obvious source
but the law applies unfailingly,
through some invisible source

Whatever you feel about another
be it love or hate or passion
will surely bounce right back to you
in some clear (or secret) fashion

If you speak about some person
a word of praise or two
soon, tens of other people
will speak kind words of you.

Our thoughts are broadcasts of the soul,
not secrets of the brain
Kind ones bring us happiness
petty ones, untold pain

Giving works as surely
as reflections in a mirror
If hate you send, hate you’ll get back
but loving brings love nearer

Remember as you start this day
and duty crowds your mind
that kindness comes so quickly back
to those who first are kind

Let that thought and this one
direct us through each day
The only things we ever keep
are the things we give away.

Author Unknown

To my daughters and granddaughters, to my wife and best friend, to the students who have allowed me to share a bit of myself, and to the Dads who have allowed me to tutor, mentor, and coach their children:

Father's Day 2014 - The Zajaros Family

Thank you!

Professor John P. J. “Jack” Zajaros, Sr.
Westside Tutoring & Testing Services
Lakewood, Ohio 44107
216-712-7004 (office)

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Why Are You the Person You Are and Are You Happy with Your Self?

by John Zajaros Life Lessons

Has Unhappiness Become a Cultural Universal? If so, how did we get to where we are today? As children we dreamed of: Becoming an astronaut and going to the Moon. Or perhaps Mars! Becoming a fireman, fighting fires and saving lives. And, once in a while pulling a cat out of a tree. Becoming a […]

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